I just been told that there’s this war happening between mothers.. all begin when a mother condemn baby wearing in her blog.. Well.. that’s her blog, so she ought to say what she want to say..(you all know were this blog is, right?) Now, this is my blog.. So I guess I could also write whatever I want right??
First of all, let me tell you all from my own experience.. I wear my baby since she was 3 months old. It doesn’t matter what brand or what type of sling it is.. but it is baby wearing which is no stroller involve at all.. and I still wear her until this recent day.. she is now 14 months, up and running naughty lil girl.. but yes, I still do wear her around.. to get her to our car, doing groceries, shopping and what not.. As she is walking already, of course she is in and out from the sling all the time. I have found wearing her is easy..its easy to control her eg to retain her from messing the shoe rack at shopping complexes, its easy to keep her safe e.g from getting lost in between those crowd, its easy for me to carry her and all her nursery stuff, and its easy for daddy to get her in and out so she could play around..
In other words, babywearing suits our lifestyle, it suits where we usually go.. it suits our daughter too.. and it suits where we live. To us, getting strollers in and out of the car is difficult (we have small car) and getting it up and down the house is difficult (we live up in the sky). So babywearing has been helping us a lot all this while. Some people wear their baby because the baby refuse to be in the stroller, but nope.. Zahraa love strollers.. she had real fun being in it.. but slings has helped us to make our life easier.. and Zahraa enjoy being with me or her father.. she could choose stuffs at the highest level.. she could pick her own biscuits from the shelves. Of course she couldn’t tell us how it felt like.. So one day I let my 3 year old niece being in Zahraa’s sling (she is a Maclaren rider) and the girl says “bestnya duduk dalam ni..” Kids get excited when they are as tall as us.. But what the heck, these are just my own experience..
Mothers at Malaysia babywearers have their own stories and their own experience wearing their toddlers. And of course none of them has ever condemn strollers, in fact they are using them too.. what the Malaysian babywearers are trying to say is.. baby slings could helped and depending on strollers at the whole time are not possible. Daily life sometime require more than sit back and relax on a pushed seat. Aint I’m rite ladies?
But the question at war now is about child’s exploration. Of course if you read anywhere in parenting resources website.. you could see or read items such as ‘if you notice your kid is afraid of strangers, hold her with you and talk her around the park or grocery store. Let her see how you talk to people and socialize. This could help her social development’. And what more could help this other than babywearing. Just ask or see yourself children that has been wear by their parents.. I never seen one who walk after 1.5 years old, and I never seen any kids who hide behind mothers and being very passive. Children do develop differently, but the development does not 100% depends on whether you carry her nor push her in strollers.
In my personal opinion, if one is giving opinion, hope it is base on their experience, or things that they’ve seen, and not by making assumptions. This could create havoc among us all. I thought mummy bloggers unite ????? We could learn form others and share the knowledge.. take the best from others. There is no rite and wrong in parenting your own kids.. they are yours, you decide… but condemning others is not a nice thing to do.